How to celebrate your family Christmas a little differently this year
Christmas 2020 will be like no other but by embracing the new normal, you can make it one you'll remember for the right reasons. Genealogist Lisa Lisson has some clever virtual Christmas party ideas for all the family.
Seventy. That is the number of annual family Christmas dinners the descendants of Abe and Stella White of Surry County, North Carolina have held.
Explore family records
Enter a few details to see your relative's records at your fingertips.
In normal years our tradition is to share a potluck meal. Not only does our family bond over a shared meal, but we also experience the culinary roots of our southern U.S. ancestors. Deviled eggs, sweet tea and layered cakes, anyone?
Last year’s Christmas dinner was the year of 'no desserts'. This was not intentional, but everyone assumed someone else was bringing desserts. Were we able to eat together in person this year, I expect we would have had an abundance of desserts.
We can't gather in person this year but this large extended family of aunts, uncles and cousins is not about to miss the annual gathering. We are going virtual.
Christmas 2020 will find us using technology to maintain our family tradition. Santa Claus will even make an appearance.
I think Abe and Stella would approve.
How about you? How will your family celebrate the festive season during the pandemic? Has your family considered a virtual Christmas party or gathering?
Are you wondering what a virtual Christmas party could look like and how to make one happen?
How to host a virtual family Christmas party in 2020
Hosting a virtual gathering with your family does not need to be complicated. Keeping things simple, with a focus on connecting with your family members, will be memorable and enjoyable for everyone. As a bonus, a virtual gathering allows family members not usually able to attend because of the distance to join the event.
Even better, putting together a virtual family gathering can be quick and easy.
Choose the virtual platform for your event
Besides the date of your event, the other main decision is which platform to use for the virtual gathering. Several platform options (both free and paid) are available for hosting the actual event. When you are evaluating which platform to use for your virtual family gathering, you will want to consider the number of people the platform accommodates and the cost. Consider using one of the following:
- Zoom is a favourite and easy-to-use platform that has gained popularity during the coronavirus pandemic. A free option is available with a 40-minute time limit. A basic account with a limit of 100 attendees and unlimited time is a great economical option too
- Skype is another easy option for hosting a group chat. The host adds family members to their contact list and then initiates a group video call
- If your family all have Apple devices, a group Facetime is an easy option. Up to 32 people can participate at once
- Google Meet (formerly Hangouts) allows anyone with a Google account to create a meeting of up to 100 participants. Meetings of up to 60 minutes are free
All of the above options take little time to set up and get started.
“Deck the halls” of your virtual gathering with a theme
Next up in your planning is deciding on a theme. Obviously, Christmas is the theme, but consider livening things up by asking everyone to wear a crazy Christmas sweater. Perhaps everyone joins the party with a favourite Christmas drink or snack. Maybe everyone shares a favourite Christmas ornament.
Some of the virtual meeting platforms like Zoom have themed virtual backgrounds individuals can use to add a festive feel.
Invite the family
Now, you’ve got the date, the theme and the platform. It’s time to invite your relatives. Invitations can be a simple email with all the details including the link to access the family gathering online. In this chaotic time of the pandemic, simple is sometimes best.
If you want to make things a bit more festive, create a digital Christmas-themed invitation to email to family members.
Canva is a free tool with fun seasonal templates you can edit with your own details to create your invitation. Then, email the invitation to your family. It’s that easy.
Virtual Christmas party activities
So…what do you actually do at a virtual family gathering?
Obviously, our family will not be feasting on those yummy family recipes together this year. (I’ll miss those deviled eggs). Instead, we will be sharing favourite family recipes which will be turned into a family recipe book afterwards.
Being able to preserve family recipes to make in our own kitchens and to pass down to the younger generations is a vital part of preserving our family history. Besides, our family loves to talk about food!
Our family - like yours, I’m sure - spends a lot of time just talking and catching up with each other’s lives. On a video chat, this gets a bit tricky if everyone starts talking at once. To avoid that, have one person act as a host to guide or moderate the conversation.
Some meeting platforms have breakout rooms where small groups can go to chat. Teenagers and young adults may find this more fun and a chance to catch up with cousins closer to their own age.
Even if a bit of conversation chaos happens, it’s no problem...you are all family, right?
Another idea is to coordinate a surprise visit from Santa for the children. Over 20 years ago, Santa started making an appearance at our annual extended family Christmas dinner and now his arrival is eagerly anticipated each year.
As genealogy researchers, the virtual family reunion, just like any other gathering, is a great place to share stories and chat about the past. Try one of these suggestions or come up with one of your own.
Smile! Don't forget the family photo
What family gathering would be complete without a family photo or two? Take a screenshot of your family gathering. It certainly will not be the traditional Christmas snapshot, but has anything been normal in 2020?
While family Christmas celebrations are not what we are used to this year, celebrating together, however that looks, is important. Future descendants will look back at the family photos and listen to the family stories of how their ancestors celebrated Christmas 2020 during a pandemic.
The 71st White family Christmas Dinner will be the most unusual gathering we've held. Still, it will be filled with joy and togetherness and fun.
I challenge you to get creative and come up with your own ways to celebrate Christmas virtually with your family.
About the author
As a genealogy researcher and creator of the Are You My Cousin? blog, Lisa Lisson takes the overwhelm out of genealogy research and keeps researchers moving forward finding their ancestors. Whether researching ancestors alongside clients or writing how-to articles and books, Lisa uses her 12 years of research experience to help others build a solid research plan, find the needed genealogy records, and get the most out of those resources. When not working with clients or writing genealogy articles, Lisa can be found pursuing her passion for running, travelling with her husband, or simply enjoying time with her two adult children.
Main article image: depositphotos.com.